Before, my role model was the vision
of the woman I wanted to become.
Then I became that woman.
Diane von FĂŒrstenberg
Act the way you'd like to be and soon
you'll be the way you act.
Leonard Cohen
To become the person you aspire to be,
develop the habits of that person.
Bille Cristiane Temanel
There is but one solution to the intricate riddle
of life; to improve ourselves, and contribute
to the happiness of others.
Mary Shelley
1. Prepare: Internal dialogue & mindset.
2. Plan: Set goals.
3. Purge: Internal & external.
4. Provide.
Change your opinions, keep to your principles;
change your leaves, keep intact to your roots.
Victor Hugo
Great things are not done by impulse, but
by a series of small things brought together.
Vincent Van Gogh
If you don't take change by the hand,
it will take you by the throat.
Winston Churchill
To improve is to change;
to be perfect is to change often.
Winston Churchill
We change the world not by what we say or do
but as a consequence of what we have become.
David R. Hawkins
- Soften your appearance. Pay attention to all aspects. Pamper yourself. Always look your best. Wear soft and bright colours that complement your skintone.
- Soften your movements. Have pliability with your body. Dance. Listen to soft music. Stretch. Slow down your movements. Smile.
- Soften your mind. Be aware of all the things that impact you. Feed your mind with things that elevate you. Pull away from anyone and anything that brings you down. God places people in your life to teach you something but they are rarely meant to be there for your entire life. It's also about the books you read, the people you watch on Youtube etc. Surround yourself with women who have traits that you want to have. Your surroundings rub off on you. Step away from everyhing that hardens you.
- Soften your spirit. Be kind, forgive and love. Break free from addiction.
- Soften your tone of voice. Have a calm, melodic, soothing and sweet tone. Breath and relax. Think before you speak. Speak slower and lower your voice. Pay attention to what voice your use when you speak to different people and why.
- Rebrand yourself. Don't let others hold you down.
- Practice good manners. Say "please", "thank you", "excuse me" and "you're welcome". Make eye contact. Mind your tone. Be sincere, kind and humble. Treat everyone with the same respect. Show reverence for each and every one of God's creatures.
- Soften your environment. Add flowers, scents and music.
- Spend time with yourself. Slow down.
- Spirituality & healing. Humble yourself. Practice love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Repent.
- Get up at 4 AM or 5 AM.
- Say affirmations. Use empowering language.
- Write down what you're grateful for and why. Journal.
- Be present. Slow down.
- Keep your environment clean.
- Pamper yourself.
- Have a playlist of music, videos, interviews, speeches etc. that's empowering for you.
- Look soft. Soft colors & feminine clothes. Perfume, nailpolish. Do your hair. Smile.
- Be vulnerable and honest. Take responsibility and apologize.
- Think for yourself.
- Be open-minded and non-judgemental.
- Look for the good in everything & everyone.
- Rejoice in the success of others.
- Remain unbothered. Don't absorb other people's negative energy.
- Focus on your personal goals.
You become what you give your attention to.
Epictetus
A seed grows with no sound, but a tree falls
with a huge noise. Destruction has noise,
but creation is quiet.
Confucius
We first make our habits,
and then our habits make us.
John Dryden
Ja visst gör det ont nÀr knoppar brister.
Varför skulle annars vÄren tveka?
Varför skulle all vÄr heta lÀngtan
bindas i det frusna bitterbleka?
Höljet var ju knoppen hela vintern.
Vad Àr det för nytt, som tÀr och sprÀnger?
Ja visst gör det ont nÀr knoppar brister,
ont för det som vÀxer och det som stÀnger.
Ja nog Àr det svÄrt nÀr droppar faller.
SkÀlvande av Àngslan tungt de hÀnger,
klamrar sig vid kvisten, svÀller, glider -
tyngden drar dem nerÄt, hur de klÀnger.
SvÄrt att vara oviss, rÀdd och delad,
svÄrt att kÀnna djupet dra och kalla,
ÀndÄ sitta kvar och bara darra -
svÄrt att vilja stanna och vilja falla.
DÄ, nÀr det Àr vÀrt och inget hjÀlper,
briser som i jubel trÀdets knoppar.
DÄ, nÀr ingen rÀdsla lÀngre hÄller,
faller i ett glitter kvistens droppar,
glömmer att de Àngslades för fÀrden -
kÀnner en sekund sin största trygghet,
vilar i den tillit som skapar vÀrlden.
Karin Boye
