Etiquette

People will forget what you said,

people will forget what you did, but

people will never forget how you made dem feel.

Maya Angelou

- Place your wine glass on the left side of the goblet.

- Never cut the leaves in the salad.

- Break up small bite sized pieces of bread and then apply.

- Always refill your table partner's glass before your own.

- Leave the cutlery like an inverted "V" on the plate. Don't do the "robocob".

- Never poke the knife outward, always keep it inwardly.

- Never apply makeup at the table. Go to the bathroom.

- Never grab the wine glass from the bowl or base. Always hold by the stem.

- Don't put your elbow on the table when you drink.

- Never blow your nose in public. Go to the restroom.

- Never put the tissue on the plate when the meal has ended. Place your napkin on the left side of the plate.

- Always RVSP & don't cancel last minute.

- Ask before bringing a guest.

- Never arrive empty-handed. Bring a bottle of wine or champagne.

- Respect the dress code.

- Eat beforehand.

- Be on time. Greet your host immediately. Thank them for inviting you, compliment them on the venue or what they're wearing and then you don't hog their time anymore.

- Say goodbye to your host.

- Keep your phone on silent and in your bag.

- Stay away from drama.

- Never stay until the end.

- Weddings.

- Funeral.

- Theatre.

- Holy places.

- Job interviews.

- Tik tok.

- Upscale restaurants.

- Respond within 24 hours.

- Don't overshare. Don't share private details. Aim for balance when it comes to sharing awareness.

- Don't give unsolicited advice.

- Don't be a typo police.

- Ask permission from friends before posting pictures of  them. Don't post bad pictures of others. Don't facetune only yourself.

- Ask permission before taking any footage of someone or their homes.

- Think before filming in public places.

1. Don't post provocative pictures.

2. Don't overshare your love life or partner online.

3. Don't post passive aggressive quotes.

4. Don't post pictures with cigarettes & alcohol.

5. Don't post on social media when you're drunk.

6. Don't brag.

7. Don't be a drama queen.

8. Don't post when you're in a bad mood.

10. Don't post content in low light.

The Anna Bey Podcast - How to be Elegant Online

Don't use social media to impress people;

use it to impact people.

Dave Willis

The Power of an Inner Life

The man who has no inner life

is a slave to his surroundings.

Henri-Frédérik Amiel

1. Put your attention where you want it.

2. Keep your inner music playing.

3. Have a dream (mental destination/fuel).

4. Find a friend who gets you.

5. Put up a fight.

6. Integrate beauty into your life.

7. Don't put a prison around your mind.

8. Let pain change you (for the better).

9. Express your inner world in the outer.

10. Give yourself a project.

11. Invest in people.

12. Escape your prison.

13. Save yourself.

14. Reserve a few secrets just for yourself.

15. Keep hope alive.

1. On the nature of things.

2. On choice and ethics.

3. The emotions.

4. Finding purpose.

5. Get busy living.

Align yourself with nature;

a universe of benevolent entropy.

Feel your troubles - then overcome them.

Focus your mind.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things

I cannot change, the courage to change

the things I can, and the wisdom

to know the difference.

Reinhold Niebuhr

Claim your virtues.

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he

stands in moments of comfort and convenience,

but where he stands at times

of challenge and controversy.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Act with purpose.

I am of the opinion that my life belongs to

the whole community and as long as I live,

it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can.

George Bernard Shaw

Seek out friendships.

Happiness is in your ability to love others.

Leo Tolstoy

Learn to value yourself.

If someone tried to take control of your body and

make you a slave, you would fight for freedom.

Yet how easily you hand over your

mind to anyone who insults you.

When you dwell on their words and

let them dominate your thoughts,

you make them your master.

Epictetus

End in peace.

You are not a drop in the ocean;

You are the entire ocean in a drop.

Rumi

Man conquers the world by conquering himself.

Zeno of Citium

The mind is its own place, and in itself can make

a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven.

John Milton

Money, Money, Money... 💰

The best investment you can make,

is an investment in yourself.

Warren Buffet

Continuous effort is the key

to unlocking your potential.

Winston Churchill

Wealth is the slave of the wise man

and master of the fool.

Seneca

A calm mind, a fit body, and a house full of love.

These cannot be bought.

They must be earned.

Naval Ravikant

Many a man thinks he is buying pleasure,

when he is really selling himself to it.

Benjamin Franklin

1. Determine your need.

2. Sell what you don't need. Tax deductible donations.

3. Make a meal plan.

4. Enjoy simplicity.

5. Repair and take care.

6. Research. 

Is it worth the cost?

What will be the cost per use?

Will I get enough value out of it?

Is it something I want to take care of?

Is it worth taking up space in my home?

7. Shop second hand.

8. Remove temptations.

Beware of little expenses.

A small leak will sink a great ship.

Benjamin Franklin

There are two ways to increase your wealth.

Increase your means or decrease your wants.

The best is to do both at the same time.

Benjamin Franklin

1. Don't save - invest!

2. Negotiate.

3. Assess your true needs.

Is this vital for my well-being?

Is this something I need for my day-to-day routine?

Is this purchase out of my own insecurity

or something the media is pushing me to buy?

If I didn't buy this, what's the worst that could happen?

4. Create a financial calendar.

5. Know your number.

6. Research community resources.

7. Take advantage of credit cards.

8. Cultivate relationships around you.

1. Know your "happiness number".

2. Keep lifestyle inflation in check.

3. Invest in your well-being first.

4. Focus on building your story. Don't compare yourself to others.

5. Choose the option that brings the most value.

If it doesn't bring peace, profits or purpose

then don't give it your time, energy or attention.

Morgan Richard Olivier

Favor For Your Assignment

When God gives you an assignment,

he also gives you the skill. Study your skills,

then, to reveal your assignment.

Max Lucado

If you judge a fish on its ability to climb

a tree, it will live its whole life

believing that it is stupid.

Albert Einstein

In every soul there has been deposited

the seed of a great future, but that seed

will never germinate - much less grow

to maturity - except through

the rendering of useful service.

Napoleon Hill

If you kill a cockroach you are a hero,

if you kill a butterfly you are bad.

Morality has aesthetic standards.

Friedrich Nietzsche

It is amazing how complete is the delusion

that beauty is goodness.

Leo Tolstoy

If someone tells you to follow your passion

it means they're already rich.

Scott Galloway

Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked,

in which you can walk with love and reverence.

Henry David Thoreau

Only one who devotes himself to a cause

with his whole strength and soul

can be a master. For this reason

mastery demands all of a person.

Albert Einstein

Go the extra mile. There is less competition for

bigger goals. When most people give upp...

keep going.

Mastin Kipp

Success is no accident. It is hard work,

perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice

and most of all, love of what you are doing

or learning to do.

Pelé

Masculine Behaviors in Women

1. Bragging.

2. Planning dates.

3. Masculine mannerisms: body language, the way that you walk and move your hands, fast movements in a sloppy way, facial expressions,  tone of voice, cursing, interrupting, being defensive, giving unsolicited advice, telling people what to do, arguing.

4. Being too independent.

A Feminine Impression - Unbecoming & Masculine Behaviors

- Femininity; compassion, servitude, love, kindness.

- Know when to speak, how much to speak and whom to speak to.

- Interrupting others.

- Adding on to people's comments.

- Offering to pay on dates.

- Having a nasty attitude; talking bad about people, gossiping, seeing the worst in every situation. Rolling your eyes, crossing your arms, looking uninterested, complaining, having a stale face, using profanity, cussing people out.

- Emasculating men.

A Feminine Impression - Being Used For Money

1. Being unapproachable.

2. Overtalking and dominating conversations.

3. Being dismissive.

4. Seeing your value in your achievements.

5. Downplaying femininty and feminine women.

6. Being too independent.

7. Being difficult and won't listen.

Show compassion to animals.

Unlike humans, they are never wicked.

Haile Selassie

Matthew 7:1-5

Do not judge, or you too will be judged.

For in the same way you judge others,

you will be judged,

and with the measure you use,

it will be measured to you.

- Stepping into your stance.

- Dealing with negative feelings.

- Discipline.

- Desire.

What is the most beautiful in virile

men is something feminine;

what is most beautiful in feminine

women is something masculine.

Susan Santog

Asian Stereotypes

Stereotypes, they're sensual, cultural weapons.

That's the way that we attack people. At an

artistic level, stereotypes are terrible writing.

Junot Diaz

"Neoteny" is "remaining young" and... human

evolution has been dominated by it. Behavioral

traits such as curiosity about the world,

flexibility of response, and playfulness is common

to all young mammals... Humanity has

advanced, not because it has been sober,

responsible, and cautious, but because it has

been playful, rebellious, and immature.

Tom Robbins

It is not the strongest of the species that survive,

nor the most intelligent,

but the one most responsive to change.

Charles Darwin

The most potent weapon in the hands

of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed.

Steven Bantu Biko

The pursuit of otherness, the sense that we are

somehow different than our brothers and sisters,

allows for all the great evils.

Anna Quindlen

The problem with stereotypes is not that they are

untrue, but that they are incomplete.

They make one story become the only story.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Eroticism is first and foremost

a thirst for otherness.

Octavio Paz

Progress over Perfection

Continuous improvement is better

than delayed perfection.

Mark Twain

Creativity is intelligence having fun.

Albert Einstein

Life is a constant struggle, much like a wrestling

match, and our success lies in how well we

navigate the unexpected twists and turns.

Marcus Aurelius

I can't give you a sure-fire formula for success,

but I can give you a formula for failure:

try to please everybody all the time.

Herbert Bayard Swope

There is no greatness where there is no

simplicity, goodness and truth.

Leo Tolstoy

We are what we repeatedly do.

Excellence, then is not an act, but a habit.

Aristotle

The two most powerful warriors

are patience and time.

Leo Tolstoy

Change is the only constant in life.

Ones ability to adapt to those changes

will determine your success in life.

Benjamin Franklin

I've decided to be happy because

it's good for my health.

Voltaire

If I had no humor I should long ago

have committed suicide.

Mahatma Gandhi

Your direction is more important

than your speed.

Richard L. Evans

Success consists of stumbling from failure

to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.

Winston Churchill

There is a crack in everything,

that's how the light gets in.

Leonard Cohen

Failure is success in progress.

Albert Einstein

Those who know, do.

Those that understand, teach.

Aristotle

Truth, like gold, is to be obtained

not by its growth, but by washing away

from it all that is not gold.

Leo Tolstoy

I learned through my body and soul that it was

necessary to sin, that I needed lust, that I had to

strive for property and experience nausea and

the depths of despair in order to learn not to

resist them, in order to learn to love the world,

and no longer compare it with some kind of

desired imaginary vision of perfection, but

to leave it as it is, to love it

and be glad to belong to it.

Hermann Hesse

Attract What You Want by Being What You Want 🌺

You attract what you are, not what you want.

Tony Gaskins

All that you are seeking is also seeking you.

Franz Kafka

Your aura/vibe: Be a pleasure to be around

- Free yourself from bitterness, jealousy, bad thoughts and negativity.

- Confidence: self love.

-  Relax and smile. Be light and welcoming. Bring inspiration, serenity and integrity.

How are you interacting with the world?

What does the world get when they get you?

Value beauty and service in all aspects

Beautify yourself and your environment. Keep your home and office clean and pristine. Surround yourself with fragrances. Have good manners. Make it a luxury experience being around you.

How do you make people feel around you?

What can you do to bring kindness, pleasure and happiness into someone else's life?

Mystery

- Don't overshare. Be still.

- Cultivate hobbies. Write, read and exercise. Keep yourself busy.

- Dress modestly. Be mindful of what you're wearing and what it says about you.

What are you passionate about?

The good you want for others is also

the good that is meant for you.

Mastin Kipp

Warmth: enthusiasm, affection, kindness.

- Watch your tone.

- Posture/body language.

- Love for other people.

A Feminine Impression - Things that prevent you from being warm

- Gossip.

- Jealousy.

- Attitude.

Charming: polite, friendly, likeable.

Charismatic: exercising a compelling charm which inspires devotion in others.

1. Authenticity to your nature.

2. Exceptional manners.

3. Smile.

4. Lend a hand.

5. Have grace in interactions.

6. Engage in small talk.

7. Have a sense of humor.

8. Acknowledge everyone in a room.

9. Be tactful when you speak.

10. Keeping a positive spirit.

Develop a pleasing personality by developing

a sincere and honest love for other people.

Napoleon Hill

- Be hard to get. Have a life.

- Be selective. Take your time to evaluate people. Set boundaries.

- Take care of yourself and your emotional needs.

- Don't validate yourself through someone else. Be aware of stereotypes in society and separate yourself from them.

- Position yourself as a high caliber woman. Develop good taste.

- Educate yourself. Find your passions. Dedicate yourself to work and projects.

- Do the best with what you have. Add femininity, confidence and elegance. Dress feminine. Highlight your feminine silhouette.

Have more than you show,

speak less than you know.

William Shakespeare

1. Have a gentle and quiet spirit.

2. Living a purpose driven life.

3. Exercising values and boundaries.

4. Loving other people.

- Balance.

- Confidence.

- Logical thinking.

- A sense of humour.

- Natural beauty.

- Intelligence.

- Smile!

- Willingness to cater.

- Feminine energy & vulnerability.

- Peace.

- Attraction.

- Loyalty.

- Willingness to pour into his needs & desires.

- Being supportive & encouraging.

- Have boundaries.

- Don't be too much too soon.

- Reciprocate.

- Positive energy.

- Communication skills.

- Respect.

Some cause happiness wherever they go:

others whenever they go.

Oscar Wilde

Royal Icons

Kings are not born:

they are made by artificial hallucination.

George Bernard Shaw

- Tokenism (performative activism)

- Colorism

- Anti-Black Racism

Tradition will accustom people to any atrocity.

George Bernard Shaw

Your legacy is every life you've ever touched.

Maya Angelou

Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Shame corrodes the very part of us

that believes we are capable of change.

Brené Brown

Shame cannot survive being spoken... What it

craves is secrecy, silence and judgement...

Only when we are brave enough to explore

the darkness will we discover the infinite

power of our light.

Brené Brown

The Latina