The Art of Conversation

Nature has given us two ears, two eyes

and but one tongue to the end that we should

hear and see more than we speak.

Socrates

Every word has consequences.

Every silence, too.

Jean-Paul Sartre

The more you discipline yourself,

the less you will be disciplined by others.

Napoleon Hill

I'm not entitled to have an opinion unless

I can state the arguments against my position

better than the people who are in opposition.

I am qualified to speak only when

I've reached that state.

Charlie Munger

Change happens by listening and then

starting a dialogue with the people who are

doing something you don't believe is right.

Jane Goodall

Love your enemies, for they tell you you faults.

Benjamin Franklin

One of the most sincere forms of respect is

actually listening to what another has to say.

Bryant H. McGill

People are taught how to speak,

but their major concern

should be how to keep silent.

Leo Tolstoy

1. Your plans. Move in silence.

2. Your finances.

3. Your love life.

4. Someone else's confidential information (malicious gossip).

5. Your drama.

6. Your controversial views (religion, politics, social taboos).

7. Your good deeds.

Three can keep a secret,

if two of them are dead.

Benjamin Franklin

It is better to be king of your silence

than a slave of your words.

William Shakespeare

A fool is known by his speech;

and a wise man by silence.

Pythagoras

Wise men speak because they have something

to say; fools because they have to say something.

Plato

Strong minds discuss ideas,

average minds discuss events,

weak minds discuss people.

Socrates

If you propose to speak always ask yourself,

is it true, is it necessary, is it kind.

Buddha

He who speaks, sows. He who listens, collect.

Pythagoras

Think before you speak, read before you think.

Fran Lebowitz

Speak only if it improves upon the silence.

Mahatma Gandhi

The trouble with the world is that the stupid are

cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.

Bertrand Russell

Opinion is really the lowest form of human

knowledge. It requires no accountability, no

understanding. The highest form of knowledge

is empathy, for it requires us to suspend

our egos and live in another's world.

Bill Bullard

You can tell more about a person by what

he says about others than you can by

what others say about him.

Audrey Hepburn

1. Jokes about something that is true and sensitive.

2. Jokes with your opinions that are not positive.

3. Sarcasm that goes too far (if the person does not understand that you're being sarcastic). 

4. Jokes about stereotypes (racial/stereotypes/sexist/groups of people).

5. Vulgar jokes (sexist/sex/toilet humor/swearing).

6. Self-deprecating humor.

7. A badly told joke (storytelling - how the build-up process works. Work with pauses).

Nothing shows a man's character

more than what he laughs at.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

If you think your belief is based upon reason,

you will support it by argument rather than

by persecution, and will abandon it if

the argument goes against you.

But if your belief is based upon faith,

you will realize that argument is useless,

and will therefore resort to force.

Bertrand Russell

Words are the clothes thoughts wear.

Samuel Becket

Listen with the intent to understand,

not the intent to reply.

Stephen Covey

There is an almost universal tendency, to suspect

the good faith of a man who holds opinions

that differ from our own opinions. It obviously

endangers the freedom and objectivity of our

discussion if we attack a person instead of

attacking an opinion, or more precisely, a theory.

Karl Popper

I don't want easy. Easy doesn't make you grow.

Easy doesn't make you think.

Madonna

Intelligence is measured by a person's

ability to see validity within both sides

of contradicting arguments.

F. Scott Fitzgerald

The greatest thing in the world is not so much

where we stand as in what direction

we are moving.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

People will forget what you said,

people will forget what you did, but

people will never forget how you made dem feel.

Maya Angelou

In order for the truth to be heard, it must

be spoken with love. No matter how wise

and true a spoken word will not be conveyed

to someone if it's spoken in anger.

Leo Tolstoy

Feminine Energy 🌺

Life is not a problem to be solved,

but a mystery to be lived.

Follow the path that is no path,

follow your bliss.

Joseph Campbell

We have a tendency to think in terms of doing

and not in terms of being... Our time is first

of all for us to be... To be alive, to be peaceful,

to be joyful, to be loving. And that is what

the world needs most.

Thich Nhat Hanh

You surrender to love;

you do not accomplish love by willpower.

Richard Rohr

Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear

and our struggle for worthiness, but

it appears it's also the birthplace of joy,

of creativity, of belonging, of love.

Brené Brown

- Creativity.

- Radiance/inner joy (passion & purpose).

- Cleanliness (your appearance & environment).

- Warmth (being inviting & approachable).

- Body language (flowing, slow, graceful, soft) & posture.

- The desire to nurture (care for yourself, plants, animals & people).

- Appearance (skirts/dresses, heels, bright & soft colors that amplify your skintone, soft materials, hair accessories, jewelry, makeup, nailpolish, handbags, gloves).

- Smile (be a pleasure to be around).

- Vulnerability (heal yourself).

A Feminine Impression - Key Qualities of a Feminine Woman Part 1

1. Radiance (a childlike spirit, self-care).

2. Inner joy (smile, gratitude).

3. Creativity (beautify yourself & the world around you).

A Feminine Impression - Part 2

1. Cleanliness (routines & schedules).

2. Warmth (empathy & kindness, eye contact & presence, listening).

3. Movement.

A Feminine Impression - Part 3

1. Vulnerability

2. Submission

Create all the happiness you are able to create;

remove all the misery you are able to remove.

Every day will allow you, will invite you to

add something to the pleasure of others,

or to diminish something of their pains.

Jeremy Bentham

Humility is the foundation of all virtues,

for it allows us to approach every situation

with an open mind and a willingness

to learn from others.

Marcus Aurelius

There are two ways through life:

the way of Nature and the way of Grace.

You have to decide which one you'll follow.

Terrence Malick

1. Makes him feel valued.

2. Playfulness & flirtatiousness.

3. Presentation.

4. Positive energy.

5. Knows how to speak.

6. Avoids drama.

7. Lets him lead.

Outer work (nurture yourself)

- Spend time with yourself. Get 8 hours sleep per night. Have a self care-day every week. Pamper yourself or go to a professional.

- Make your home/personal space look feminine. Decorate with flowers & feminine colors. Light candles, play relaxing music. Seduce your senses.

- Always look your best. Smile. Plan trips. Do creative things.

- Read books that help you grow.

Inner work (journal)

- Reflect on your day/week. What did you do? How did you treat people? What happened and why did it happen? What do you need to change? What can you learn? How do you contribute to others? What can you do? How can you improve yourself? Focus on one thing at a time. Slowly incorporate new habits into your life.

- Visualize. Write down what you want to have/experience/achieve in the next 3 years of your life. Imagine yourself having and doing the things that you're working towards. Make a vision board. Pray about it. Believe.

- Evaluate people in your life. Are they adding value to your life? How do they influence you? Who do you want to be? What do you like/dislike? Decide what your priorities are. Set boundaries. You teach people how to treat you. Break free from people and habits that's hurting you.

- Focus on gratitude.

The habits, thought patterns, and perceptions

you display will be amplified in the years

to come. Don't practice what you don't

want to become.

J.Mike Fields

1. Be still & present. Indulge your senses. Allow people to help you.

2. Connect with nature. Spend time outdoors. Have plants/flowers in your home.

3. Have fun. Laugh. Do something different. Take care of yourself. Love your body.

4. Embrace your emotions - but don't act out. Listen to your intuition.

5. Explore your creativity. Discover your talents. Find your purpose.

Inspiration exists, but it has

to find you working.

Pablo Picasso

The divine feminine is the energy of pure

creation; the embodiment of love,

compassion and nurturing.

Lisa Michaels

Patience is waiting.

Not passively waiting, that is laziness.

But to keep going when the going is hard

and slow - that is patience.

Leo Tolstoy

Curiosity is one of the forms of feminine bravery.

Victor Hugo

Harm no other beings.

They are just your brothers and sisters.

Buddha

We're exploiting female bodies and abusing

the magic of female animals

to create eggs and milk.

Nathalie Portman

Competition is the law of the jungle,

but cooperation is the law of civilization.

Peter Kropotkin

The universe experiences itself through you

for a brief moment called life.

Eckhart Tolle

 A woman is the full circle.

Within her is the power to create,

nurture and transform.

Diane Mariechild

Someone Not Something

The animals of the world exist for their own

reasons. They were not made for humans

any more than black people were made

for white, or women created for men.

Alice Walker

Human are best protector or worst destroyer

of nature and humanity itself.

Sandeep Sahajpal

The problem is that humans have victimized

animals to such a degree that they are

not even considered victims.

They are not considered at all.

Gary Yourofsky

Animals are my friends...

and I don't eat my friends.

George Bernard Shaw

Animals are not ours to eat, wear,

experiment on, use for entertainment

or for any exploitative purpose.

Sharon Gannon

Anyone who moves is not

supposed to be eaten.

Bob Marley

I don't see why someone should lose their life

just so you can have a snack.

Russell Brand

I hold that the more helpless a creature,

the more entitled it is to protection

by man from the cruelty of man.

Mahatma Gandhi

The soul given to each of us is moved by

the same living spirit that moves the Universe.

Albert Einstein

In every living being there is the desire for love.

D.H. Lawrence

There is no fundamental difference between man

and animals in their ability to feel pleasure

and pain, happiness and misery.

Charles Darwin

Jo Frederiks

We've objectified certain animals so much

that we refer to them as 'livestock'.

'Stock' that just so happens to be alive.

An inconvenience that they were

even alive to begin with.

Ed Winters

I don’t want to eat anything that had a mother.

Fred Rogers

The pain that we cause is the cause of our pain.

Leif Erikson

Jo Frederiks

Every bit of meat, chicken or fish you eat,

every bit of leather or fur you wear,

has come from an animal that has

been tortured, pulled away from their

family and brutally killed.

Lewis Hamilton

Only those who are capable of loving strongly

can also suffer great sorrow, but this same

necessity of loving serves to counteract

their grief and heals them.

Leo Tolstoy

Jo Frederiks

One should not kill a living being,

nor cause anyone to be killed,

nor should one incite another to kill.

Do not injure any being,

either strong or weak, in the world.

Buddha

The world is not a factory and

animals are not products for our use.

Arthur Schopenhauer

💣 Unpopular Opinions & Controversial Figures 🔥

Freethinkers are those who are willing to

use their minds without prejudice and

without fearing to understand things that

 clash with their own customs, privileges,

or beliefs. This state of mind is not common,

but it is essential for right thinking.

Leo Tolstoy

Everything that irritates us about others

can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.

Carl Jung

If you do not say a thing in an irritating way,

you may as well not say it at all

because people will not trouble themselves

about anything that does not trouble them.

George Bernard Shaw

Those who are able to see beyond

the shadows and lies of their culture

will never be understood, let alone

believed, by the masses.

Plato

Free thinkers will always seem crazy to

those who can't see beyond conventions.

Never apologize for evolving

beyond people's comfort zone.

Albert Einstein

People who say things like "I can't worry

about animals when there are humans

who need help" tend to do f*ck all

to help humans neither...

Kindness is kindness. Simple as that.

Ricky Gervais

The minority is generelly formed by those who

really have an opinion, while the strenght

 of the majority is illusory, formed by 

the gangs who have no opinion.

Soren Kierkegaard

It's easy to stand in the crowd

but it takes courage to stand alone.

Mahatma Gandhi

Cowards can never be moral.

Mahatma Gandhi

The question is not whether we will be extremists,

but what kind of extremists we will be. For hate

or for love? For the preservation of injustice

or for the extension of justice?

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Do not go where the path may lead. Go instead

where there is no path and leave a trail.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

People's opinions are mainly designed to make

them feel comfortable; truth, for most people,

is a secondary consideration.

Bertrand Russell

Injustice results as much from treating unequals

equally as from treating equals unequally.

Aristotle

If everyone is thinking alike,

then no one is thinking.

Benjamin Franklin

If anyone can show me, and prove to me,

that I am wrong in thought or deed,

I will gladly change. I seek the truth,

which never yet hurt anybody. It is only

persistence in self-delusion and ignorance

which does harm.

Marcus Aurelius

Man proceeds in the fog. But when he looks

back to judge people of the past, he sees no fog

on their path. From his present, which was their

faraway future, their path looks perfectly clear

to him, good visibility all the way. Looking back,

he sees the path, he sees the people proceeding,

he sees their mistakes, but not the fog.

Milan Kundera

Intelligence is measured by a person's

ability to see validity within both sides

of contradicting arguments.

F. Scott Fitzgerald

I don't want to talk, to communicate, with

someone who agrees with me; I want to

communicate with you because

you see it differently.

Stephen Covey

Two percent of the people think.

Three percent of the people think they think.

And ninty-five percent of the people

would rather die than think.

George Bernard Shaw

True morality consists not in following

the beaten track, but in finding the true path

for ourselves, and fearlessly following it.

Mahatma Gandhi

Progress is impossible without change,

and those who cannot change their minds

cannot change anything.

George Bernard Shaw

The reasonable man adapts himself to the world;

the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt

the world to himself. Therefore all progress

depends on the unreasonable man.

George Bernard Shaw

🍖 Make the Connection 🐑

Compassion is ethical intelligence:

it is the capacity to make connections

and the consequent urge to act

to relieve the suffering of others.

Will Tuttle

I stopped eating meat some 50 years ago

when I looked at the pork chop on my plate

and thought: this represents fear, pain, death.

Jane Goodall

Jo Frederiks

Don't talk of love and peace when you

have a dead animal on your plate.

Socrates

I am determined not to kill, not to let others kill,

and not to support any act of killing in the world.

We should consume in such a way that helps

to reduce the suffering of living beings.

And that way we can preserve

compassion in our hearts.

Thich Nhat Hanh

Non-violence, which is the quality of the heart,

cannot come by an appeal to the brain.

Mahatma Gandhi

Until he extends his circle of compassion

to include all living creatures,

man will not himself find peace.

Albert Schweitzer

A person with the capacity but not the inclination

to cease suffering is morally incomplete.

Mirko Bagaric

Compassion, in which all ethics must take root,

can only attain its full breadth and depth

if it embraces all living creatures and

does not limit itself to mankind.

Albert Schweitzer

The whole concept of hunting is a very alien one

to me and I cannot comprehend how any person

can derive enjoyment or pleasure from

the suffering of another creature.

Mark Owen

Compassion is an unstable emotion.

It needs to be translated into action,

or it withers.

Susan Sontag

What do they know - all these scholars, all these

philosophers, all the leaders of the world -

about such as you? They have convinced

themselves that man, the worst transgressor

of all the species, is the crown of creation.

All other creatures were created merely to

provide him with food, pelts,

to be tormented, exterminated.

Isaac Bashevis Singer

Animals and humans suffer and die alike.

Violence causes the same pain, the same

spilling of blood, the same stench of death,

the same arrogant, cruel, and brutal taking

of life. We don't have to be part of it.

Dick Gregory

Violence begins with the fork.

Mahatma Gandhi

The line separating good and evil passes

not through states, nor between political

parties either - but right through

every human heart.

Alexandr Solzhenitsyn

I felt that if I were to continue to live

in this world I had to do what I could

to reduce the suffering around me,

or at the very least, not to add to it....

I gave up eating meat.

I have not eaten it since.

Nick Cave