Respect for ourselves guides our morals,
respect for others guides our manners.
Laurence Sterne
For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others;
for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness;
and for poise, walk with the knowledge
that you are never alone.
Audrey Hepburn
What you do not want done to yourself,
do not do to others.
Confucius
Do not do unto others what you expect they
should do unto you. Their tastes
may not be the same.
Bernard Shaw
Behave toward everyone as if
receiving a great guest.
Confucius
- Say "please", "thank you" and "excuse me".
- Make eye contact, smile and be present.
- Have a soft handshake. Introduce anyone who is with you. Rememb people's name. It's better to ask for the name again before your first conversation end than next time you meet each other.
- Remember what people tell you and ask about it next time you see each other.
- Be punctual. Be on time. If you can't make it, let them know ahead of time directly. Don't tell someone else to tell. Don't wait until the last minute. If you're going to be ten minutes late, contact them and say you're sorry. If you can't make it to an event, let people know ahead of time.
- If you're the host, let people know that you're grateful that they attended, that you had a great time and that you look forward to see them in the future. If you received a gift, show your appreciation and gratitude for the gift. Immediately. If someone mails you something, you can mail back and that shouldn't take a week.
- Don't talk (loudly) on your cellphone when you're around other people. If you have to do it, apologize and let them know why.
- Avoid topics that are gross or tragic. Keep conversations light and appropriate.
- Be mindful of how much food you put into your mouth and to chew with your mouth closed. Don't talk with food in your mouth. Practice the same manners at home as when you're in public.
- Don't make sounds with your mouth when you talk on the phone.
- Look up videos on Youtube and read books on manners. Have mentors. Watch people who present themselves well and mimic them.
- Don't complain. Ask politely for what you want.
- State your opinion but never argue with anyone.
- If you didn't hear what someone said, say "excuse me, what did you say, I'm sorry I missed that".
- Treat people with kindness and respect, no matter who they are.
1. Don't act desperate.
2. Show others respect and demand respect in return.
3. No drama.
4. Don't be jealous - be inspired by others success.
5. Enjoy the finer things in life.
6. Communicate clearly. Learn to listen and practice compassion.
7. Celebrate your personality.
8. Be open-minded and non-judgemental.
9. Give back to society (discreetly).
10. Work on yourself.
Good manners are the practical
application of kindness.
Kay West
1. Not pretending.
2. Life experience.
3. Being well-travelled.
4. Being well-read.
5. Having hobbies.
6. Attending cultural events.
7. Analytical thinking.
8. Not overusing the term "I don't know".
9. Attending conferences and seminars.
10. Having correct table manners.
1. Don't need to prove a point. Keep your emotions under control.
2. Are not obsessed with free things.
3. Don't borrow money & act carelessly.
4. Can handle their liquor.
5. Communicate eloquently online.
6. Handle copycats gracefully.
7. Don't obsess over men.
8. Pay attention to their smell.
9. Queue elegantly.
1. You avoid drama.
2. You have self respect.
3. You are selective.
4. You have standards.
5. You respect others.
6. You are confident.
7. You have composure & you are discreet.
8. You embrace personal accountability.
9. You understand there is a time & place for everything.
1. Name dropping.
2. Asking too many questions without talking anything about yourself as well.
3. Sharing others contact details without their permission.
4. Being stiff and boring.
5. Trying to portray yourself as perfect.
6. Lacking interest in others.
1. Talking too much. Trying to impress. Bragging.
2. Never returning any favors.
3. Having bad breath.
4. Looking down on others.
5. Being a know-it-all.
1. You don't air your dirty laundry in public.
2. You're not obsessed with looking or appearing rich.
3. No name dropping, status bragging & any form of showing off.
4. You're not a fake friend.
5. You respect other people's boundaries.
6. You support people in embarassing situations.
7. You don't treat service people like servants.
8. You're not stingy when you have the funds.
9. You have compassion.
10. You're kind to animals.
1. The walk of shame.
2. Eating on the street or drink on the go.
3. Drinking cow milk.
4. Oversharing.
5. Whistling.
6. Being intrusive.
7. Putting your feet on the table.
8. Getting in bed with a stranger.
9. Not welcoming guests at arrival.
10. Being neglectful.
You can easily judge the character of a man
by how he treats those who can do
nothing for him.
Johann Goethe
- Intolerance.
- Yoga pants.
- Blue jeans.
- Sweatpants.
- Grunge.
- Being rude to service staff.
- Blowing your nose at the table.
- Filler words.
- Too much information in public.
- Being loud.
- Making fun of others religion or spiritual beliefs.
- Bragging.
- Going to the bathroom in the middle of a meal.
- Using your phone at the table.
- Having hair or lint on your clothes.
- Shewing with your mouth open.
The great secret is not having bad manners
or good manners or any other particular sort
of manners, but having the same manners for
all human souls. In short, behaving as if
you were in heaven, where there are no
third-class carriages, and one soul
is as good as another.
George Bernard Shaw
